My favorite lengths for BDSM sessions
I was recently talking to a my personal preferences as to the length of the sessions, and thought I'd share with you what I like and why. This should help you decide how long to consider booking, whether it's the first or fortieth time we've met.
There are pros and cons to every duration, and here's a quick overview based on my experience.
Please note that I limit the first session to three hours. That's more than enough time to get to know each other, and if, despite our email and video exchanges, the meeting doesn't work out so well, we're not stuck in the same room for too long.
For beginners
I normally recommend an hour and a half to two hours if you're new to BDSM or this is one of the first times you've seen a professional Dominatrix. Under 90 minutes, we don't have time to get into a good rhythm or explore different practices. On the other hand, going beyond two hours for a first experience can be overwhelming. What we're doing is intense, and can tire both emotionally and physically. Although I do most of the work, I've noticed that beginners start to weaken after two hours and are less able to enjoy the experience. Unless we've planned a lot of bondage, which I'll detail below.
More experienced players
Anything under two hours is a bit fast. If you've had the opportunity to practice regularly, and really want to enjoy yourself, then 2 or 3 hours would be ideal. There's no need to rush, we can explore many things, and can take the time to get you to subspace, breathe, warm up and come down properly.
Like most of you, I love role-playing games, and many of my regulars ask me to concoct scenarios for games. As with a good theatrical performance, it takes time to set the scene, for the actors to get into their roles and for the story to begin to unfold. It's the same for a role-playing scenario: it's essential to take the time to prepare for the climax and enjoy the show to the full.
Bondage Session
Sensory deprivation and bondage sessions are best when long and slow. At least 3 hours. If you want to let yourself go through bondage, it will take some time.
Long sessions
For long sessions, we need to have an established relationship. I would never consider having someone I've seen once or twice for one night. I need to know that you can endure all my whims for 12, 16 or 24 hours and that's a real challenge! Although many submissives dream of serving me day and night, the reality is less seductive than you might imagine. These sessions are generally more suitable for submissives who want a more intimate look at my life, and who can meet my needs over the long term.
Short sessions
I avoid hour-long sessions, unless they are strictly focused on a fetish, or you come to see me regularly. You've barely had time to dry off after a shower before you have to come back down! I've considered stopping offering one-hour sessions, but haven't officially decided yet.
Final score
These are just tips. When you submit your application, we'll discuss the specifics of your request and I'll advise. Please understand that if I tell you that your wishes and the time you can afford (financially or in terms of duration) are not consistent, it's not to discourage you. On the contrary, in fact, I'm considering several things when I say "I suggest X hours". It's not to extort an extra hour from you, or conversely, to limit the time you can spend together. It's simply based on my years of experience as a professional and private Dominatrix.
Sometimes your fantasies aren't suited to our time together, and as a professional Dominatrix, it's my job to give you my informed opinion on how to make the most of our session time.
