Tips from a Dominatrix: before our appointment

I've had a few sessions recently that didn't get off to a good start, so here's a list of things you can do to make sure everything goes as smoothly as possible when you meet a Professional Dominatrix, whether it's for the first time or the hundredth.

Visit discreet when you arrive at my studio. I usually have a drink with someone before the first session to make sure we're in sync, but it also allows me to lead them safely to my play space. As I'm located in Paris and in a mostly residential apartment complex, I don't want my neighbors to get too curious. Of course, I don't have a flashing neon sign above my door saying " Professional Dominatrix Just as I wouldn't want you to show up in your puppy clothes and come crawling down the hall.

Smell nice. If you have any doubts about your freshness, take a shower before we meet. Most of us have access to places where this is possible, but let me know if you're coming straight from work or a long bike ride. I don't mind a little natural body odor, but I'd prefer you to sweat because of the rigorous activities we're going to do together.

Do an enema if you want to play all kinds of anal games. We can sometimes suggest this before a session, but it takes time that I much prefer to spend playing. If you need an instruction manual, here's one for you. design fun. If we have to play an intense anal game, remember to eat a little less the day before and avoid eating too much meat.

Don't arrive drunk or high. If you're feeling nervous and need to relax before coming to see me, do a breathing exercise instead of drinking too much or taking drugs. A small beer is fine, but don't you want to remember all the things you've drunk? naughty things we do during our time together? I do!

Give your offering as soon as you arrive. It's so much more elegant than if I had to ask. I have no problem asking, but I always remember those who hand me my gifts without my having to. If you really want to get into my good graces, bring a gift. Even simple things like a nice bottle of olive oil or a scented candle can make me smile. You can visit my wish list for more ideas.

Don't arrive directly after a big meal or without having eaten before our session. Overeating can make you a little lethargic, and hypoglycemia can be downright dangerous during a session. I don't want to imagine you fainting because you didn't eat anything that day. Having to move unconscious submissives is not my definition of a good time. 

Arrive on time. Neither early, nor late. I often have last-minute details to take care of just before a session. I choose the music, light some candles or simply have a cup of tea and get into the right mood. state of mind to spend a wonderful time with you. You can always email me if you'd like to arrive earlier than expected, but don't count on my availability. If you're running a little late, please let me know as soon as possible.

Speaking of time, it's wise to allow a little time after the scheduled session. If we're planning to spend two hours together, give yourself three. This will give you time to get downstairs and not think about your business meeting while we're having fun.

If you have toys that you want to play with, bring them along. Some of my submissives bring their own whips or swifts, clothes, probes or other objects. Would you like to wear your hatchling costume? Don't forget to pack it! Although I'm very well-equippedIf you have an item you'd like to use specifically, please ask me if I have it in my arsenal, or be prepared to supply it if I don't. If you find yourself in a situation where you can't bring a BDSM toys at home, you can always leave it as a gift.

I hope you've found it useful, whether you're a seasoned slave who's been to several Professional Dominas, or a curious newcomer who wants to be as well prepared as possible.