The joy of JOI
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JOI (Jerk Off Instructions) is a practice you can incorporate into your sex life, whether you're a dominant or not. Inanna Justice, Dominatrice expatriate in Paris, gives you her tips for this practice that's sure to get you up on your feet.
He's kneeling in front of me, fine drops of sweat on the bridge of his nose, his chest, his forehead. His excitement is visible; he has goose bumps. For the past few hours, I've been telling him that this moment will come... if he's good.
- You masturbate with your left hand, right?
- Yes, ma'am.
I tie this hand firmly behind her back. The position is difficult; it changes his balance, even on his knees. I can see him fidgeting, trying to find a more comfortable position.
- Do you think you deserve an orgasm today?
- Yes, ma'am.
- A better answer would have been "If you think so, Madame", but let's move on for now. I can see that your training is far from complete.
- Yes, Madame. Thank you, Madame.
I order him to grab his tail...
Mutual pleasure is always my goal during a BDSM scene, even if my own pleasure remains the priority (ah yes, it's so good to be Dominatrix !). Despite what you might think, even the most intense sessions are based on consentThe aim is to create a climate of trust, mutual respect and discussion of each person's physical and emotional limits.
And let's be honest, almost everyone likes to masturbate, especially with a partner who likes to watch. Jerk Off Instructions, or JOI, is a method I use to make sure my partner gets pleasure while maintaining my superiority.
JOI is not necessarily a power dynamic, although it can be. It can be practiced with people of all kinds, and requires no equipment. You may or may not mix it with a role-playing game. It can be used as a reward or punishment (we'll come back to this in a few minutes). The possibilities are endless! Here are my tips on how to incorporate it into your sex life, whether you're kinky or vanilla.
