Slate Magazine
I was recently interviewed by Laure Dasinieres for Slate Magazine.
Laure Dasinieres - Edited by Émile Vaizand - April 12, 2024 at 7:00 am
There's nothing unhealthy about sexual play. All you need to do is find out about it, talk about it and give it a try, "with kindness and respect", as professional dominatrix Inanna Justice advises.
There is no sexualityThere are sexualities, an intimacy shared by each of us, each in his or her own way. Every week, you'll find the Intimité-s newsletter, a rendez-vous for all ages, genders and sexual orientations.
"My name is Dita, I'll be your mistress tonight
I'd like to put you in a trance
If I take you from behind
Push myself into your mind when you least expect it
Will you try and reject it?
If I'm in charge and I treat you like a child
Will you let yourself go wild?
Let my mouth go where it wants to?
Give it up, do as I say
Give it up and let me have my way
I'll give you love, I'll hit you like a truck
I'll give you love, I'll teach you how to (oh)
I'd like to put you in a trance..."
"Erotica", Madonna (1992)
In any case, when these fantasies are there, it's just a question of what to do with them. As you will have gathered, this column is marked by pro-sex feminism, and there's no way I'm going to advise you to break your impulses. First and foremost, the idea is to sweep away shame and/or feelings of guilt. Long pathologized and classed as a paraphilia, (cravings for) domination and submission games (D/s), whatever your gender, are in no way sickly, unhealthy, deviant or unhealthy. perverts. Now you're talking.
The fact remains that when it comes to playing these games, I'm pretty ignorant. So I turned to Inanna Justice, professional dominatrix and founder of France Femdom. So we got together on a Friday morning in December for a video chat to debrief and demystify the whole thing, and for her to share her expert advice on how to get started.
