Subspace, subdrop, and aftercare
If you have already taken part in BDSM scenes, you may have experienced subspace. It can take various forms, but is often described as a hypnotic trance. It can range from a mild buzz to a much more intense, almost out-of-body experience. Bottoms often compare it to a pleasant high that you might experience using recreational drugs, an intense orgasm, or even “runners high.”
Subspace can be achieved through physical or psychological stimulation. It can come through pain play or when your Dominatrix commands you to perform a task. While your skin or mind are being stimulated, your body reacts by releasing endorphins and adrenaline, creating a delightful euphoric state. Even your Dominatrix brushing her fingers across your skin, gently pulling your hair, or simply playing with her online can trigger this rush. You forget your problems, you forget the pain, you forget everything aside from the scene between you and your Domme. You completely let go and it’s absolutely blissful.
That said, when in subspace, you are not always able to make wise decisions. This is one of many reasons that you and your Domme must establish limits before a session and stick to them. When in this altered state, the sub often wants to push a bit further than they agreed to pre-session. It is important that the Domme respects theses predetermined limits. We can always go farther next time!
After this surge of hormones, one may experience subdrop, a mild depression after a session. The submissive may feel moody, disconnected, irritable, lethargic, etc. One indication of subdrop is a decrease in body temperature, hence why you will sometimes see a bottom wrapped in a blanket after an intense scene. Subdrop generally happens right after a session, but can occur hours or even days later. Generally speaking, drop will resolve itself shortly, but aftercare helps tremendously. Taking a bath, playing your favorite music, taking a brisk walk, and getting good sleep can help tremendously. If your Domme isn’t available in the hours and days after a session, don’t hesitate to reach out to friends. A support network is always valuable, even if that simply means connecting with others online.
Aftercare is an integral part of a session, and can sometimes be the difference between a good scene and a bad one. Being the nurturing and protective Domina that I am, I always do a short debrief with my submissives after a scene. Having a quick chat about the session allows me to gauge your reactions and see if I feel there will be any big issues. Of course, not all sessions require extensive aftercare, but a quick drink together is always a pleasure!
This is just a short introduction to these subjects. As always, I encourage you to educate yourself on these terms and more. One can never be too informed.