A lifestyle Domme is someone that engages in BDSM play without asking for payment. A professional Domme, as the name implies, is someone that provides access to her time in exchange for payment. Many, if not most, pro-Dommes also have play partners outside paid sessions, but we tend to be really selective as our kink time and energy is often reserved for our work. As much as we may enjoy our job (and I absolutely adore it), we don\u2019t always want to be responsible for taking care of our submissives when we\u2019re not being financially compensated for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As you may know, I am both a lifestyle and professional Dominatrix. Booking a session with me is relatively easy assuming you follow my booking protocol and have similar kinks, but becoming one of my pro bono subs is much more challenging. All of my lifestyle submissives started out as clients: it was over time that I\/we decided to pursue a relationship beyond a professional one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are advantages and disadvantages to lifestyle vs. a pro-Domme experience, and you should probably evaluate which suits you better. You can read my article on why it's fabulous to visit a pro Domme. With a quality professional Dominatrix, you get to have a tailor-made, high-end session complete with super sassy outfits and fabulous gear, but there will certainly be much less social time (SMS, emails, coffee together\u2026). She\u2019s paid because of her skills, equipment, training, and expertise\u2026 and that when you\u2019re with her, she\u2019s 100% on her game and in tune with you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pro-Dommes tend to be quite strict with our time and aside from a quick drink before and\/or after a session, we\u2019re not going to spend a lot of time with you. This can be a big upside if you are also a busy person that wants to get your kink on for a few hours, then go back to reality and your everyday obligations afterward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
With a lifestyle Domme, there will likely be a lot more communication between sessions, but you have to (gasp!) deal with the whole woman. She may not always have the energy to give you what you desire and may not always be at the top of her game, even when you\u2019ve scheduled playtime. One day, she may be in the mood to give you a bunch of tasks, then perhaps she\u2019ll be too busy or preoccupied to think about BDSM. Pro-Dommes generally have scheduled hours like any other business, and we are in the right mindset to conduct sessions. A lifestyle Domme probably has a \u201cregular\u201d job, and when she comes home after a long day, may be tired and needs to take care of her family or other obligations before thinking about getting kinky.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
While most professionals have a wide range of practices, many lifestyle Dommes may be a bit more limited in what they want to do or what they are trained to do. Is cross-dressing your thing? Well, not all women enjoy it. Maybe heavy bondage is what you want. Not all women are into it (and perhaps not equipped). Professionals certainly have favorite practices (look at our websites to see what we prefer), but because we have a wide range of clients with various desires, we have learned to find joy in many practices.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
After taking these things into consideration, you are still convinced that you want to find a lifestyle Domme. Here are a few tips to help you along the way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Most lifestyle Dommes aren\u2019t spending their time on social media searching for submissives. They do, however, often go to\u00a0munches<\/a>\u00a0and play parties. If you want to increase your chances of finding a Dominant play partner, I highly recommend that you start attending events. The more people that you interact with, the higher your chances of finding someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n