{"id":2946,"date":"2021-03-05T07:22:42","date_gmt":"2021-03-05T07:22:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/inannajustice.com\/?p=2946"},"modified":"2023-11-19T11:43:36","modified_gmt":"2023-11-19T10:43:36","slug":"feministe-gang-bangs-2021","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/inannajustice.com\/en\/feministe-gang-bangs-2021\/","title":{"rendered":"A feminist vision of gang bangs"},"content":{"rendered":"
A few years ago, if you'd told me I'd be interested in gang bangs, I'd have told you you were crazy. Then I met someone who gave me a completely different perspective on them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I met J at a \"munch\" (an event where kinky people go to meet each other) and then a few days later, I met him by chance at a game night. He was a little shy and stood alone, quietly watching the beautiful choreography of a BDSM party.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I had a bit of trouble understanding him at first, so I decided to make small talk with him and find out a bit about this curious character. We chatted about this and that, and I discovered that he was a photographer. It was early in my career as a professional Dominatrix, so I asked him if he'd be interested in taking some photos for my website. He graciously agreed and we set a date.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He had a location lined up for our shoot, a large industrial loft in the 20th arrondissement of Paris. I'd been there for a few events, so I already knew the place. But I didn't know how he knew the place, as I'd never seen him at any party before the week before.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"I came here for, uh, ummm... some events,\" he murmured shyly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Really? What events? I don't remember ever seeing you at anything here.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"Well, uh... gang bangs,\" he finally blurted out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\"What, really?!\" I asked, surprised.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Is this nice guy one of those selfish assholes who gets off on objectifying women?<\/em> I thought to myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \"Yeah, I think bangs are really beautiful. The woman is the center of attention, it's all about pleasing her, making sure she's satisfied...\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n Hmmm, I never thought of it that way...<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n As my readers know, I'm a very open-minded person, so I decided to delve deeper into the subject. J and I became close and every time we discussed gang bangs, my view of them slowly began to change. I read a few blogs and how they're set up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Typically, an organizer is contacted by a heterosexual couple who want to live out this fantasy. Although much of the preparation can be done in the presence of the boyfriend\/husband, the organizer will set up a time to talk to the woman without her partner present. This ensures that she isn't forced to do anything she doesn't like at 100%. As we all know, peer pressure can be a real bitch, especially when it comes from a horny partner. I was happy to learn that there was a safety valve allowing the woman to withdraw.<\/p>\n\n\n\n According to one organizer, he had to cancel events when he got the feeling that the woman wasn't totally into the idea. Instead of telling his boyfriend, he makes up an excuse not to go ahead with the gang bang, to avoid any backlash between the two partners. Very cool.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Once the couple and the host have set a date, it's up to the organizer to find suitable members. There's also a screening process for guests. Not just any Tom, Dick or Harry is invited to these events. A good event organizer has a little black book with his best \"artists\": the ones who show up on time with a big smile and smelling good, who never talk back, who are never in a hurry when there are eight guys waiting in line to serve a woman (yes, I deliberately use the word \"serve\").<\/p>\n\n\n\n I spoke with Pamy, who has been organizing bangs since 2012, about his casting protocol. He told me that when a new guy applies to attend an event, he gets a long phone call to repeat what's explicitly written on its website<\/a><\/strong><\/span>. This allows Pamy to get a better idea of the person and filter out those who, for example, may not have the woman's best interests in mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n He explains that he never allows more than one or two new guys for every ten gang bang regulars. The rest are men who've been to events before and have a proven track record. He says this is one of the most valuable tools for discouraging bad behavior. If the newcomer shows up and sees everything the others know about each other, he'll be much less likely to bring a bit of negativity to the scene. Pamy knows he can count on his loyal team to keep an eye out for any bad behavior and inform him so he can act accordingly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Knowing that so many precautions are taken to make sure everyone is safe before a gang bang really helped me see things differently. It's not much different from a BDSM scene: consent and respect are the keys to making things work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pamy told me briefly about the single women who contact him to organize an event. He told me that the preparation is even more intense, as she doesn't have the safety net of a partner. He spends more time carefully selecting the men who will participate based on his preferences. He insists on a long discussion before the event to make sure that he has done everything in his power to ensure that things are up to her expectations and that she will be treated with the utmost respect and care.<\/p>\n\n\nPre-show logistics and consent<\/h2>\n\n\n\n