The term was first used by renowned sex advice columnist Dan Savage in 2001 to describe when a cis-gender woman anally penetrates a cis-gender man with a belt dildo. While the practice existed long before, in recent years it has become more widely accepted and practiced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Someone once told me that I'd have to use enough lubricant to stuff an elephant into a mailbox during anal sex. While this certainly helps, as with many things, it's important to go slowly at first and work your way up. There shouldn't be any sharp pain, but a slightly stretched sensation is quite normal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In my opinion, it's best to start with your fingers before using toys. If you're training on your own, depending on your flexibility, it can sometimes be a little difficult to use your fingers. My recommendation? Go and see a reputable professional Dominatrix and she'll be able to guide you carefully and safely.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are tons of wonderful prostate massage toys to try and an endless choice of dildos in different sizes and shapes suitable for pegging. Again, start small and work your way up. You don't want to traumatize your body by using a giant dildo right off the bat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are numbing creams and gels on the market, but I absolutely do NOT recommend using them. It may prevent you from feeling if something is wrong. Besides, why would you want to numb an area with so many nerve endings... it goes completely against the concept of getting pleasurable sensations from anal play.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Absolutely not! The idea that being anally penetrated makes you gay is ridiculous. Homosexuality is when two people of the same sex are attracted to each other. If you're a man and you have female partners, you're heterosexual, whatever sexual practices you take part in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I'm a cis-gendered woman and I practice this regularly with men. They have no desire to kiss another man, let alone have sex with one. The fact that they enjoy anal penetration doesn't make them any less heterosexual. They want to be penetrated by ME, a cis woman.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I'm passionate about educating people about sexuality, especially things that fall outside what's considered \"normal.\" Every time we discuss things considered taboo in vanilla society, we shake the shame that surrounds it. It's important that we start educating ourselves about pegging (and so many other things) so that we can pass on our knowledge to future generations and break down some of the negative stereotypes surrounding atypical sexuality. By discussing sex and sexuality more openly, we help others overcome their insecurities and eliminate shame.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sex is a basic human need, like food, shelter and emotional connections with others, but we don't talk about it. We spend hours discussing what we're going to cook for dinner, what improvements we're going to make to our home and our relationships with others, but we avoid talking about sex. It's time we changed our attitudes towards sex, and talking with your partner(s) and those around you is one way to do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There are so many reasons why people love pegging, but the most common answers I hear are power dynamics and physical pleasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You probably know that the prostate is considered to be a man's G-spot. While it may take a little practice, once you've had a prostate orgasm, it's usually pretty easy to have them again and again. From what I've read and heard from many, many partners, prostate orgasms are similar to penile orgasms but much more intense. What's more, men can have multiple orgasms this way, which is not usually possible with more conventional penis orgasms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We often talk about the physical pleasure men derive from anal penetration, but rarely about the physical pleasure when a woman places her strap-on around her hips and fucks her man. Depending on the strap-on she uses, there can be wonderful friction against his genitals, eventually leading to orgasm. There are also dildos that are placed in the vagina and extend outwards from there like a penis. This is excellent because you can both have several orgasms together. How wonderful is that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For both partners, the symbolism of the power of pegging can be truly incredible. Many women don't understand the pleasure of penetrating their partner. Seeing a man on all fours with his ass in the air begging for my cock is one of the sexiest things imaginable. I'm generally less turned on by images than by words (for example, I'd much rather read an erotic novel than watch porn), but there's something extremely visually exciting about \"taking\" my partner. Between the pleasure of seeing his face twisted with pleasure and watching my cock slide in and out of his ass, it's a feast for the eyes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
For the man, being taken by his partner can be a welcome change from the typical dynamic of \"classic\" sex. She plays a much more active role between the sheets than usual, the man relaxes and takes all the pleasure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pegging and other anal games are not only fun and sexy, but there are also potential health benefits. Although research is somewhat limited, some studies have shown that playing the prostate can help combat erectile dysfunction, relieve painful ejaculations, prevent and treat prostatitis, improve urine flow, enhance sexual performance and more. I'm not a doctor, so I'll leave you to do your own research and talk to your doctor if you suffer from any of these problems.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As with all sexual practices, you need to have open and honest discussions with your partner before trying anything new. Don't be afraid to ask questions, express your concerns and explain why you want to explore pegging.<\/p>\n\n\n\n